look good. If I’m going to use an illustration of weakness, I use myself. I don’t feel that my need to be transparent gives me permission to confess other people’s sins. A certain amount of transparency is essential, yet too much transparency or the wrong kind at the wrong time can be damaging. So how do we know what’s proper? What guidelines can we follow? As I’ve reflected on it, I’ve concluded that healthy transparency is a lot like working with tools or playing a musical